Suicide Prevention & Risk Reduction

Losing someone to suicide is an incredibly painful and complex experience. You may feel overwhelmed by emotions, questions, and uncertainty about how to move forward. While the road ahead may feel difficult, know that you are not alone and support is within reach. Below are some tips for coping with this loss.

Immediately After the Loss

Don't hesitate to reach out for support. Here are services that may help:

• OSU Student Care can provide one-on-one support and help you navigate various needs in the aftermath of a friend or loved one's suicide.

• Counseling services at CAPS

• Off-campus support groups

What you can do for yourself

It’s natural to feel like withdrawing into isolation after a loss, especially when emotions, reminders, and situations feel overwhelming. However, leaning on the support of family, friends, or your faith community can provide comfort and even moments of relief. Connection can ease distress and remind you that you don’t have to face this alone.

Take Your Time. Grieving a suicide loss is a deeply personal journey, and healing unfolds at its own pace. You may need more time off work or additional space to process your feelings than others might expect. Don’t let societal or personal pressures rush you—it's okay to take the time you need.

Honor Your Own Way of Grieving.There’s no right or wrong way to grieve. For some, visiting a loved one’s grave might feel too painful, while others may find comfort in regular visits. Listen to what feels right for you and let go of the need to meet others' expectations.

Share Your Story When You’re Ready. Talking about your experience can be healing, but it’s okay to start small. A support group can provide a safe space to open up and process your feelings. Over time, you may feel more comfortable discussing your loss with others. Be honest and direct if it feels right, such as sharing that your loved one died by suicide. Keep in mind, some people may avoid mentioning your loved one’s name or seem unsure how to approach you—not out of disregard, but fear of saying the wrong thing. If you feel comfortable, take the lead in the conversation and express your feelings.

Your grief is valid, your pace is your own, and your path to healing deserves gentleness and care.

Additional tips for adults, children, and schools dealing with a suicide

Continued Hope & Healing

Prepare for Painful Reminders. Special occasions like birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays can become painful reminders of your loss. These feelings are a normal part of grieving, so be kind to yourself if sadness or mourning takes over during these times. If needed, consider adjusting or pausing family traditions that feel too difficult to continue.

Anticipate Setbacks. Grief is not a straight path—there will be ups and downs. Some days might feel lighter, while others can bring back intense emotions, even years later. For example, the loss of another loved one might resurface memories of the suicide. These moments don’t mean you’ve gone backward; they’re part of the healing process, and your coping strategies can help guide you through.

Find Meaning by Helping Others. Volunteering and supporting others can be a powerful way to heal and find purpose. Consider opportunities through programs like OSU Community & Civic Engagement or Volunteer Match, where you can make meaningful connections while helping your community.

Participate in Healing Events.

• OSU Out of the Darkness Walk: This annual event raises awareness, saves lives, and provides hope for those affected by suicide. For details, contact Tessie Webster-Henry.

• International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day: Held every November, this day connects survivors to share understanding, strength, and hope.

Stay Connected with Support Groups. Attending a support group can provide ongoing comfort and encouragement as you navigate your grief. It’s okay to reach out whenever you feel the need.

Embrace Joy Without Guilt. Finding laughter in a funny movie or joy in your child’s antics is not a betrayal of your loved one’s memory—it’s a sign of healing. Pursuing hobbies, enjoying social activities, and allowing yourself happiness are healthy steps forward in your journey. You’re honoring your loved one by continuing to live fully.